Top 10 Cracks That Crack (and Other) Addicts Fall Through
Relapse, relapse, relapse. Every day you read about someone with an addiction who has relapsed. Given the chaos and misery this causes for addicts and their families, I sought out Dr. Gregory L. Jantz, Ph.D., C.E.D.S., founder of The Center, A Place of Hope, and posed this challenge to him: can you name the top 10 cracks that crack addicts (and other addicts) fall through?
Here is a list based on his ideas, and IÕd recommend that anyone who struggles with addiction print it up and keep in a place you can see it, Òone day at a timeÓ:
- Failure to develop new and healthy relationships.An addiction is a routine, and old and unhealthy relationship are unhealthy routines that can lead to relapse, just as new and healthy relationships can help maintain healthy routines.
- Lack of accountability in general. The more you value keeping your word and following through, the easier it is to stay sober. This often takes several months for the newfound trust and respect from others to sink in and begin to be as satisfying as the addiction is gratifying.
- Maintaining a relationship with a co-addict or codependent. Water seeks its own level. Need we say any more?
- Trading addictions. If you think something along the lines of, ÒI no longer drink so binging on food is OK,Ó youÕre unaware of this Òaddiction dance.Ó Unless you replace the unhealthy habit with a healthy one, and until that healthy one begins to ease the pain that the addiction does, a cross addiction will just be a false recovery.
- Lack of self care, such as poor diet and lack of physical activity. Eating poorly and not exercising can produce sub-clinical depression, and sub-clinical depression can increase cravings.
- Thrill-seeking activity to replace the ÒhighÓ (i.e., trying to mood-alter). The thrill of an adrenaline rush, which can make you feel powerful, is very seductive when youÕre feeling lost and powerless.
- Dishonesty in any area of life. Deception breeds denial, which triggers relapse. Doing small things is the way you do big things. A little lying can lead to a lot of lying, and when that happens, denial is just around the corner.
- Failure to have a relapse plan when faced with the strong desire to use. Failing to plan is planning to fail. Without a plan that youÕre committed to, you are more vulnerable to going back to a Òpleasure painÓ approach to life.
- Self-deception: Lying to yourself and saying, ÒJust this one time; that will be the last.ÓDenial is like a welcome mat to using again, and when you take that first drink or hit, the crash from self-deception into using can cause shame that is so painful that the need to now ease that pain can lead to further using.
- Failure to develop meaningful life goals. Believing that your life is meaningless can cause you to feel that it is pointless. And once you feel that your life is pointless, there appears to be no good reason to deprive yourself of the pleasure of drugs. One of the best ways to counter this is to conduct yourself so that people you hurt and disappointed will now trust, have confidence in and respect you. That can cross over into your having respect for yourself, and that can become something so important and meaningful that you wouldnÕt want to do anything to mess it up.
Mark Goulston, M.D.
Vice Chairman, Steele Partners
- Top 10 Cracks that Crack and Other Addicts Fall Through on Their Way to Recovery (psychologytoday.com)
- Supporting an Addict WhoÕs Relapsed (everydayhealth.com)
- Recognizing an Addiction Relapse (everydayhealth.com)
- Ignoring Stress Leads Recovering Addicts to More Cravings (addictionts.com)
- Meditation for Addiction (addictionts.com)